शरीर फिट राखनु छ ? जिम जानु पर्दैन यसरी सेक्स गर्नुस् हेर्नुस भिडियो

शरीर फिट राखनु छ ? जिम जानु पर्दैन यसरी सेक्स गर्नुस् हेर्नुस भिडियो 

 

तपाइँ हामीले सुन्दै आएका छौं शरीर सुन्दर र फिट राख्न शारीरिक ब्यायाम गर्नु र जिम जानु आवश्यक हुन्छ । तर बैज्ञानिकहरुले शरीर फिट राख्न अब जिम जानु नपर्ने केवल बेडरुम गए पुग्ने नयाँ तथ्य सार्वजनिक गरेका छन् । बैज्ञानिकहरुका अनुसार शरीरको तौल घटाउन र फिट राख्नका लागि कसरत गर्नुको तुलनामा सेक्स गर्नु कैयौं गुना लाभदायक हुन सक्छ । बैज्ञानिकहरुले एक घण्टा सम्म ओच्छ्यानमा रोमान्स गर्दा शरीरबाट उत्तिकै मात्रामा क्यालोरी बर्न हुन्छ जति हामी आधा घण्टा जगिङ गर्दा बर्न हुन्छ । क्यानडाको क्युवेक विश्वविद्यालयका शोधकर्ताहरुका अनुसार आधा घण्टा सेक्स गर्दा पुरुषको शरीरबाट १२० क्यालोरी बर्न हुन्छ । जवकी महिलाको शरीरबाट ९० क्यालोरी बर्न हुन्छ । अध्यनका अनुसार जवान र स्वस्थ पुरुषको औषत सेक्सको समयमा १ मिनेटमा ४ दशमलव २ क्यालोरी बर्न हुन्छ जवकी जगिङ गर्न प्रयोग गरिने ट्रेडमिलमा त्यतिनै समयमा ९ दशमलव २ क्यालोरी बर्न हुन्छ । त्यसैगरी महिलाले सेक्स गर्दा एक मिनेटमा ३ दशमलव २ क्यालोरी गुमाउँछन तर त्यति समय जगिङ गर्दा ७ दशमलव १ क्यालोरी बर्न हुन्छ । बैज्ञानिकहरुले अध्यनमा १८ देखि ३५ वर्ष उमेर समूहका जोडीलाई समावेस गरेका थिए । जोडीहरुलाई एक महिना सम्म हप्तामा एक पटक सेक्स गर्न र ट्रेडमिलमा ३० मिनेट सम्म जगिङ गर्न भनिएको थियो । यसबाट उनीहरुलाई कसरत गर्दा वा सेक्स गर्दा बढी उर्जा खर्च हुन्छ भन्ने पत्ता लगाउनु थियो । पब्लिक लाइव्रेरी अफ साइन्समा प्रकाशित अध्यनका अनुसार यो परिणामबाट स्वास्थ्य र शारीरिक फिटनेसका लागि शारीरिक ब्यायाम वा कसरतको तुलनामा सेक्स गर्नु उत्तम भएको पुष्टी भएको छ । बैज्ञानिकहरुले सेक्स मानिसको जिन्दगीको महत्वपूर्ण हिस्सा भएको र यो मानसिक र शारीरिक स्वास्थ्यका लागि एकदमै आवश्यक रहेको बताएका छन् ।।

वक्षस्थल बारेका केही रोचक तथ्य हेर्नुस भिडियो

 वक्षस्थलमै पर्छ । महिलाहरुलेे आफुप्रति तन्नेरीहरुको आँखा कति पार्न सक्छन् भन्ने कुरा उनीहरुको वक्षस्थलको सुन्दरतामा भर पर्छ । अझ रोचक कुरा त के भने एक दिनमा कम्तिमा एक मिनेट महिलाको वक्षस्थलमा आँखा लगाउने पुरुषको आयुमा समेत वृद्धि हुन्छ । यसको कारण पुरुषको मनोविज्ञानमा आउने सकारात्मकता हो । ब्रा बनाउने कम्पनी थ्रम्पको एक सर्भेक्षणका अनुसार बेलायती महिलाहरुको वक्षस्थल अन्य युरोपेली महिलाको भन्दा ठूलो छ । युरोपेली महिलामध्ये ठूला वक्षस्थल हुनेमा डेनमार्कका महिला दोश्रो, हल्याण्डका तेश्रो स्थानमा छन् । युरोपमा सबैभन्दा सानो आकारका वक्षस्थल भएका महिला इटालीका छन् । स्तनको औषत वजन आधा किलो हुन्छ । दुइवटा स्तनको तौल महिलाको सरीरको कुल तौलको एक प्रतिशत जति हुन्छ । स्तनमा बोसोको मात्रा अत्यधिक हुन्छ । उमेर बढेसँगै स्तनमा बोसोको अनुपात पनि बढ्छ । पाको उमेरका महिलाको स्तनमा दुध ग्रन्थी सुक्ने भएकाले त्यसको ठाउँ पनि बोसोले लिएको हुन्छ ।

What's My Problem? How You Can Change Your Sex Life

Sexual problems are maintained between 2 people.  High/low, kinky/vanilla, softer/harder, erotic/dull desire – whatever the differences… people can’t resolve sexual issues because of the speck/log problem.  We can see what our partner is doing wrong.  The question we need to ask is, “What am I doing (or not doing) that gets in the way of a satisfying sex life?”

Sam wanted his wife to be free and uninhibited.  Once when she was on top, she reached down to stimulate herself. By taking matters into her own hands, so to speak, he thought she was communicating that he (his size, rhythm, whatever) wasn’t good enough.  Not a regular drinker, she decided to try some wine before bed.  He complained that she had acted silly not sensuous.  His anxiety about being adequate proscribed the ways she could change things.  His expectations about what freedom looked like turned spontaneity into a command – “be spontaneous the way I like it.” Marianna was bored in bed.  She longed for skilled seduction from her husband.  Most of the time he acted like a little boy, joking about, “When were they gonna do the jungle act?”  He grabbed at her breasts and buttocks.  Junior high jokes about farting and burping were his kind of funny.  In turn, Marianna acted prim.  She more often than not, rejected his initiations by rolling her eyes.  Her reactions made her the mother or the school-marm and him the naughty little boy.  She never took on the role of seductress because she believed initiation was the man’s role.

Questions to ask yourself:

1)   What 3 words describe your ideal sexual encounter?  You have to know what you want and own it before you can get it.  In my clinical experience, women more often than men, describe ideal sex as “I’ll know it when it happens.”  This attitude lacks the adult responsibility of shaping our future and makes it impossible to ask for what we want.

2)   Have I met the conditions my partner has asked for? Spouses might have peculiar requests but meeting them minimally reduces their argument for resistance.  Not meeting simple requests reinforces the power struggle between you. For instance, your partner says, “I’d feel more comfortable giving oral sex if you showered first.”  Shower.  “Your breathe is a turn-off.” Get regular dental cleanings, scrape your tongue, dental floss your teeth.  “I want you to initiate.”  Buck up.  Be courageous.  Plan a seduction. “I want to feel connected before we have sex.” Schedule a twice weekly lunch/date/dinner to talk about emotional subjects, dreams, goals – think dating. Keep the appointment as a matter of integrity regardless of what happens sexually.  Change is uneven and not based on quid pro quo. 

3)   Does my temper make my spouse feel afraid or anxious? Sex requires a sense of physical safety and most often relaxation.  If you can’t control your mouth – MOVE YOUR FEET!  Put a door between yourself and your family before one cross word or one elevated decibel threatens to destroy a normal disagreement.  Commit within yourself to a zero tolerance standard over your inappropriate anger.

4)   Do I keep raising the bar? Spouses become afraid that change will only last if they keep the pressure on.  Most people respond to appreciative reinforcement more.  Say thank you! Talk about how great small changes are without mentioning the next step.  Keep in mind that changes happen along an average trajectory with a step back every now and then.  Don’t over-react if the old pattern emerges temporarily.

5)   Am I a blamer?  In most decent couples, for every transgression of our spouse, there is a corollary to the way we have injured the relationship.  Find it.  Own it.  Forget calling attention to your partner’s every flaw.  That is exhausting to a relationship.  Being one up means your partner is one down – you both lose.

6)   Have I given sex its proper priority? – One woman I knew exercised 11 hours a week – tennis lessons, 3x weight training, 3x aerobics, etc.  She said she was too tired for sex.  Yet trading one of those hours for love-making would have eliminated their stressful fights over sex.  Poor decision.  Another man felt life was good but would be better with just a little more sex; his nagging eroded a relationship that was satisfactory.  In both examples, the people felt anxiety over getting close.  She was afraid of being controlled if she let him into her body or gave him leave to exercise her in a different way.  He was afraid that there would never be enough sensation to satisfy an aching need inside; he projected responsibility for his emptiness onto her.

7)   Does comparing outside my relationship leave me envious and unsatisfied? No matter how the neighbor brags, most people don’t volunteer the unvarnished truth about their sexual problems. Jokes, innuendos and public displays of affection are sometimes actually designed to make others jealous.  Pornography has nothing to do with real life.  Women don’t look that way.  Men aren’t that big.  Truly being satisfied with one person will be more difficult if you feed yourself a visual smorgasbord.

 You can find Laurie Watson's book Wanting Sex Again on Amazon, Barnes and Noble or at  bookstores everywhere. Follow her on Facebook and Twitter!

The Best Kept Secret to Highly Successful Couples

According to Adam Grant, Wharton’s most popular and youngest tenured faculty member, author of Give and Take: A Revolutionary Approach to Success, people fall into one of 3 distinct categories: Givers, Matchers and Takers. While Grant’s book is written for a business audience, its theories provide extraordinary insight into romantic relationships. The category you fall into may well determine the success and happiness of your relationship!

For example, has a romantic relationship ever made you feel like you were not good enough? Have you ever been taken advantage of by a romantic partner? Have you ever felt like you gave everything to someone and ended up completely worn out? Then you may just fall into the “Giver” style of romantic partner.

Interestingly, while the Giver style may have its drawbacks, Givers are also usually the most attractive partners and more likely to have long-term relationships! A study examining the trait most highly valued in potential romantic partners suggests a different story: both men and women rate kindness as one of their most desired traits. Moreover, givers are also most likely to be affectionate, a trait which determines the long-term success of a relationship (as I describe in this post ) not to mention their own longevity. n order to understand where you fit in and how to best navigate your relationships with others, here’s a summary of the 3 styles of romantic partners.

3 Styles of Romantic Partners

Givers are people whose primary motivation is to take care of others, to make sure others are well, and to contribute to others and society. In a relationship, these are people who are always thinking about gifts for their partner, who take their partners’ interests into consideration, and who are always thinking “What else can I do for you?” They’re pretty awesome. As Grant mentions in his book—everyone likes having givers around because they are always happy to contribute and thinking of others. They understand the relationship as an opportunity to give and take care.

Givers often end up thinking there is something wrong with them when they are unhappy in a relationship. They are the ones who think they are not lovable or good enough because they take personal responsibility for making the relationship work (rather than blaming their partners). They can end up burned out and exhausted, from continuously giving at their own cost if they do not receive the support they need from the relationship.

Matchers tend to keep a balance sheet in a relationship. When matchers give they do so with an expectation of getting something in return.  When they receive something, they feel like they have to give something back. Matchers are the ones who are keeping tabs, and view relationships as somewhat like a commercial transaction.They are the ones who are most likely to say something like:  “I did this for you, but you didn’t do that for me” or “You paid for this, so I’ll pay for that.” 

Takers are just that…takers. They usually treat people well only if and when those people can help them reach their goals. Interestingly, Grant points out that they often appear as the most charming and charismatic people on the surface. They know how to work the crowd and seduce, but under the surface they are actually motivated by self-interest. You can recognize a taker by how poorly they treat people that they believe are of no use to them. You know you’re in a relationship with a taker when you feel sucked dry for all you have (whether it’s money, affection, time etc.). Once the taker has everything they want from you, you may be relegated to the “unimportant” sphere of their life. Their primary focus is themselves.

So Who is Most Successful and Who is Least Successful?

Grant points out a fascinating fact about who, among these 3 styles, is happiest and most successful: It is givers. What about those who are least successful? Also givers! Why? Givers who learn to successfully navigate a world with matchers and takers make out great. Everyone loves givers, trusts them, and supports them when they are in need. So why are Givers also the least successful? Because some givers don’t know how to navigate that world and, as a consequence, end up taken advantage of. If you’re a giver, you’ve been there at least once both professionally and personally.

Imagine a relationship between a giver and a taker? These end up with the giver completely worn out, having perhaps spent their savings, time and energy on someone who keeps demanding more and never or scarcely provides for their partners’ needs (unless they do so temporarily because it behooves them at that moment).

So what makes a successful giver? Read Adam Grant’s book to get his complete lists of tips. One that stood out to me was the idea of being a “giver with awareness.” Awareness of what? Be aware that the world has givers, matchers and takers. Watch people’s words and actions, and you will know who is who. When you navigate romantic relationships, friendships or business partnerships, investigate which category your potential partner belongs to and don’t get blown away by first-impressions (as noted above, Takers are masters of first-impression charm). Then what? In a non-romantic situation, you can deal with Matchers and Takers by adopting a matcher-like attitude (I know, hard to do for a giver!). Start speaking in terms of “ok, we have an agreement, you do this and in exchange I will do this.”

What about in romantic relationships? I conferred with Adam Grant while writing this article and he shared the following tip about long-term love: “In the most successful relationships, both partners are givers. In other words, when a romantic relationship works, matchers and takers are focused on giving.  Both partners might be giving in different ways, but they should be willing to support each other without expecting something in return. That said, when things get too far out of balance, I think we all become matchers.” Imagine a relationship where both partners are always caring for each other’s needs. Where when there is a fight, both are the first to say “I’m sorry, it was my fault.” In which both live their life with their partner’s best interest in mind. You better believe that matchers and takers are also looking out for givers so, if you’re a giver, be sure you seek one out for yourself too because you deserve it.

If you recognize yourself as a matcher or taker then—first of all—congratulations on being so honest with yourself. Of course, because of givers’ affectionate and service-oriented qualities, it is also in your best interest to have a partner who is a giver. However, I’d like you to consider 2 things:

First, givers will never be fully happy unless you support them as they support you. They will eventually feel worn out and perhaps even leave. In a recent study by Amie Gordon at the University of California-Berkeley, those who experienced more gratitude in their relationship also felt closer to their partner, more satisfied with the relationship and tended to engage in more constructive and positive behaviors within the relationship. Ultimately, for a good relationship that benefits you, you will want your partner to be happy and will want to support them in return.

Second, as Grant’s book clearly outlines, givers are the ones who end up being most successful and happy, if they watch out not to be taken advantage of. A large amount of research now shows that a lifestyle comprised of kindness and service leads to greater fulfillment as well as health and happiness. If you want to be happy and successful, it therefore behooves you too to be or become a giver.

With the Thanksgiving and Christmas holidays coming up, it's a great time to start being a giver! After all, isn't that what love's about?

For more information on Adam Grant’s book, visit this page on Amazon.

For more of my articles on how to make a relationship thrive, see here and here and here.

10 Things To Do Instead of Grounding Your Kid

"Dr. Laura -- Could you write about transitioning to positive discipline for parents of older kids? If I start Empathic Parenting now with my kids 12 and 9, will it still help? How do I all of a sudden "remove" punishment? My 9 year old always says 'Oh now I guess I am grounded.' How do I change his thinking?"

Yes, empathic parenting always helps. Empathy creates a connection with your child. Children of any age, including teenagers, respond to that connection by being more open to  Grounding your child, removing privileges, punishing with extra chores -- all of these approaches are meant to "teach a lesson." But research shows that kids get preoccupied with the unfairness of the punishment, instead of feeling remorse for what they did wrong. The lesson you want to teach, I assume, is that your child can make a better choice next time. You also want to teach that everyone makes mistakes, and your child has the power and courage to make amends. You want him to practice that. Right? Here's how.

 1. First move yourself from anger into empathy. Once your child knows you're on his side, he feels safe to engage with you. Without that sense of safety, your child's heart is hardened to you -- because he expects judgment and punishment -- and you have no influence at all. So just tell him you need some time to think, and get calm before you talk about what happened. (For more on managing your own anger.)

 2. Start with connection. If your child is worried about you getting upset at her, she'll move into "fight, flight or freeze" and learning will shut down. She's also more likely to lie. The only way to actually "teach a lesson" is to create a safe conversation. To do that, remember that your child has a reason for what she did. You may not consider it a good reason, but to her it's a reason. If you don't find out her reason, you can't prevent a recurrence.

 3. Tell your child you want to hear his thoughts about what happened. Then let him talk. Reflect to clarify (and demonstrate) your understanding:

"I see...so the guys really wanted you to play basketball, and it was at the same time as the study session for the test? That's a hard choice."

"Wow! So you and your sister were really furious at each other... you were so hurt when she....I would have been mad too, if someone said that to me......and you really wanted to get back at her, huh?"

 4. Keep your focus on connecting with your child and seeing the situation from his point of view. This helps you, and him, understand what motivated him. This gives him an opportunity to work through the feeling or the unmet need that drove his behavior. Kids always know what the right choice was, but something got in their way. What was it? How can he (with your help) address that so he can make a better choice next time?

For instance, let's say he played basketball with his friends instead of going to the study session, and then failed his test. You might find as you talk with him that he has a lot of anxiety about being accepted by the guys and felt he had to play basketball to be one of the gang. This social anxiety may be something he actually needs your help to sort out and problem-solve about, and once he does he would be a lot more ready to focus on schoolwork.

But by simply punishing him, you would never have even known about it. You would have lost the opportunity to help him address his feelings and find a good solution for next time. In fact, since punishment doesn't help him resolve his conflict, he might very well do the same thing next time, but invent some story to cover himself.

5. Ask open-ended questions. Keep the conversation as safe and as light as possible. If you can share a laugh, you'll defuse the tension and strengthen your bond, so remind yourself that this is a growth experience for both of you, and summon up your sense of humor.

 Was he aware of making a choice?

What led him to that choice?

What does he think about it now?

Was there a cost to making that choice?

Would he do it again?

Why or why not?

How could he support himself to choose differently next time?

 6. Explore and learn with your child, rather than assuming you know what should happen now. Once he isn't being controlled by that unmet need or upsetting feeling, and he sees the result of his action (failed test, hurt sister, broken window, whatever), he feels regretful. This is only after the feelings or needs have been processed, of course. But once they aren't driving him, his "goodness" is free to come through. He naturally wants to make things better.

So you ask him:

What can you do now to make things better?

Did this incident show you anything in your life that you want to change?

How can I support you?

 7. Resist the urge to jump in with punishments. Instead, be quiet and listen. This is not about him being punished and losing privileges and being told what bad things are now going to happen to him. It's about him realizing that what he does has an impact, and taking responsibility to have a positive rather than a negative impact. If you can avoid playing the heavy, your son can actually take responsibility, because he isn't on the defensive.

In the example of the failed test, maybe he makes a written chart about schoolwork, and sits with you to do it every night, and asks the teacher for extra credit work to do, etc. Is that punishment? No, not if this is the plan that he brainstorms with you to come up with. In fact, if you help him actually follow through and partner with him so he can achieve his goals, then it's completely empowering and could transform his ability to achieve in school.

If the bad choice was hurting his sister, then the reparations would be to her. All children have mixed emotions about siblings, but that means there is affection and comradeship in there somewhere, and even protectiveness.

 8. What if he says no repair work is necessary; that he doesn't care if he failed the test and his sister deserved what she got? He's still on the defensive. Say "Oh, Sweetie....I understand why this happened and why you made this choice....but that doesn't mean your choice worked out well...you must still be so upset to say that....I know that when you aren't so upset you would feel differently....Let's give this a break and talk more later." Give him a chance to calm down. When you start talking again, start with empathy. That's what helps him heal those feelings. And model taking responsibility, maybe by saying "I think some of this is my fault...I didn't realize you were falling behind in class, or I would have helped you address it before now."

9. Step into your own power. You as the grown-up have more power than you know in this situation. Your child is depending on your leadership, even if she seems to be resisting it. If she hurt her sister, it gives you an opportunity to address the obvious sibling rivalry. If she failed her test, it gives you an opportunity to consider your family's overall prioritization of schoolwork. When we give our children sufficient support, they usually rise to the level of our expectations. Some kids just need more support than others.

10. Expect an adjustment period. Like any transition, a change in your parenting from punitive to empathic parenting will include both of you learning the new territory. No blame. We all do the best we can as parents. But if you've been punishing, your child was obeying out of fear. Once you stop punishing, she stops obeying. So you need to make it your highest priority to do some repair work on your connection, so she WANTS to cooperate with you, and doesn't want to disappoint you. Otherwise, she'll just flaunt your rules.

But what if she just can't regulate herself to stop fighting with her sister or do her homework? This is where you pay the piper for your previous punishing -- it's likely she has some big upsets stored up that are driving her behavior. Once you aren't punishing, kids feel safer, so the emotions they've been stuffing come pouring out -- sometimes in the form of rudeness toward parents. The key is to stay empathic and not take it personally. Remind her that you speak with respect to her, and that you expect civility in return: "You must be so upset to speak to me that way...What's going on, Sweetie?" Stay compassionate. Welcome her upset feelings. The more safety you can provide, the sooner your child will be willing to cry and share what's really bothering her. Once she empties her emotional backpack of all those uncomfortable feelings she's been lugging around, she'll be much more open to connecting. And because you've stayed compassionate, she'll know you're on her side, and she'll WANT to cooperate, whether she's three or thirteen.

 The hard part is changing your own habits, but luckily you'll see positive changes very quickly so you'll have incentive to keep going. Don't worry about changing your child's thinking. If you change, they change.

What Truly Successful People Know That You Don't

Success is a science; if you have the conditions, you get the result –Oscar Wilde

Decide What’s Most Important

In the information age, there are constant demands on our attention and energy.  We face a barrage of demands that are urgent—that just have to be done by a certain date and time.  These may include doing the laundry, studying for an exam, responding to an e-mail, preparing a presentation, taking the dog for a walk, attending your son’s soccer game, or having Thanksgiving dinner with your relatives. The problem is that by the time you’ve attended to all the urgent things, it’s much more difficult to do the more complex, difficult, uncertain, but important tasks that will really move you forward towards your goals. To get to the next step in your career, find a new job, write a book, or start a small business, you need to put in a lot of time and cognitively intense effort. It all takes planning, research, networking, and preparation of materials. Unless you devote several productive hours to these activities each week, it’s not going to happen. Whereas most of us underestimate the time it will take and overestimate our willpower, successful people are realistic about the effort involved. They are clear about their priorities, have a vision of where they are headed, and are truly committed to these goals. That means they limit the time they put into the urgent stuff and sometimes just do what’s absolutely necessary, so they preserve time for building their dreams.

Do you aspire to be a truly successful person, yet run out of time and energy to get things done? Or perhaps you are performing well at a demanding job, being a supermom, or a straight “A” student, but the stress is getting to you and you know you can’t keep it up. You look enviously at that colleague, boss, or neighbor who seems not to have the same struggles. They have the same time limits and demands as you, but seem so much further  ahead in their career path, or they look fit and relaxed whereas you feel tired-eyed and bedraggled. Do they have boundless energy, superhuman capabilities, or have they figured out the secret of not needing sleep?  The truth is “None of the above.” These successful people have likely figured out the secret of working smarter, rather than harder. They understand the secrets of willpower and know how to schedule their priorities, rather than prioritize their schedule. They manage their stress and nurture their relationships. Read on to find out how you can do this too.

Be Accountable

Successful people understand that it’s not enough just to set goals; you also have to keep track of your progress and create incentives for yourself.  Otherwise it’s all too easy to put off doing the complex and difficult tasks. Changing your habits and routines is a very difficult task, and it takes commitment, effort, and persistence. Research shows we are motivated by short-term rewards and find it difficult to sustain unrewarded effort for long periods if the task isn’t intrinsically satisfying. While following your passion may give you a pleasant sense of accomplishment eventually, you have to put up with the initial uncertainty and feelings of being overwhelmed or not up to the task. The best way to tackle this is to break up larger tasks up into short-term goals, which you track and check off to give you a sense of accomplishment. At the early stages, goals will probably consist of finding information and making contacts. So, instead of beating yourself up for not finishing your first chapter, you can happily check the box for finding a well-written chapter by another author that can guide you in structuring yours.  That way, when you do write your own chapter, you will do so more efficiently and effectively. And a weekly check-in on your progress can help you adjust your goals and estimates to be more realistic, and reinforce your sense of progress and accomplishment.

Some Amazing Facts to Blow Up Your Mind.....Read it Through!!!

 

There are 62,000 miles of blood vessels in the human body. Laid end to end. They would circle the earth 2.5 times.
2. At over 2,000 kilometers long, the Great Barrier Reef is the largest living structure on Earth.
3. The risk of a human being struck by a falling meteorite is one occurrence every 9,300 years.
4. A thimbleful of neutron stars would weigh over 100 million tons.
5. A typical hurricane produces energy equivalent to 8,000 one megaton bombs.
6. Blood sucking hookworms inhabit 700 million people worldwide.
7. The highest speed ever achieved on a bicycle is 166.94 mph by Fred Rompelbeng.
8. We can produce laser light a million times brighter than sunshine.
9. 65% of those autism are left handed.
10. The combined length of the roots of a Finnish pine tree is over 30 miles.
11. The oceans contain enough salt to cover all the continents to a depth of nearly 500 feet.
12. The interstellar gas cloud Sagittarius B contains a billion, billion, billion liters of alcohol (JF rater is planning to move there in the near future.
13. Polar bears can run at 25 miles an hour and jump over 6 feet in the air.
14. 60-65 million years ago, dolphins and humans shared a common ancestor.
15. Polar bears are nearly undetectable by infrared cameras, due to their transparent fur.
16. The average person accidentally eats 430 bugs each year of his life.
17. A single rye plant can spread up to 400 miles of roots underground.
18. The temperature on the surface of Mercury exceeds 430 degrees celsius during the day, and at the night, plummets to minus 180 degrees celsius.
19. The evaporation from a large oak or beech tree is from ten to twenty-four hours.
20. Butterflies taste with their hind feet and their taste sensation works on touch. This allows them to determine whether a leaf is edible.

महिलाको पसिनाले पुरुष प्रभावित

The teacher speaking to a student said, "Saud, name two pronouns."
Saud who suddenly woke up, said, "Who, me?"

Teacher: Today, we're going to talk about the tenses. Now, if I say "I am beautiful," which tense is it?
Student: Obviously it is the past tense.

Q: What is orange and sounds like parrot?
A: A carrot


Q: Can a kangaroo jump higher than the Empire State Building?
A: Yes, because the Empire State Building can't jump!

मेरो तल ठूलो भएर नै उसको लिङ्ग पूरै न खुलेको त होइन ? के गर्दा उसको लिङ्ग पूरै खुल्छ ?

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- A woman gets on a bus with her baby. The bus driver says: ''Ugh, that's the ugliest baby I've ever seen!'' The woman walks to the rear of the bus and sits down, fuming. She says to a man next to her: ''The driver just insulted me!'' The man says: ''You go up there and tell him off. Go on, I'll hold your monkey for you.''

- A young blonde woman is distraught because she fears her husband is having an affair, so she goes to a gun shop and buys a handgun. The next day she comes home to find her husband in bed with a beautiful redhead. She grabs the gun and holds it to her own head. The husband jumps out of bed, begging and pleading with her not to shoot herself. Hysterically the blonde responds to the husband, ''Shut up...you're next!''

ब्रा खोल्नुस प्लिज (फोटोफिचर)

ब्रा महिलाको अन्तःवस्त्र हो यो सर्वविदितै छ । तर, कसैले ब्रा संकलन गरिरहेको छ यो भने आश्चर्यको कुरा हो । कसैले यही महिलाको अन्तःवस्त्र संकलन गरिरहेको छ भन्ने सुन्दा अनौठो लाग्नु स्वभाविकै हो ।
यसरी महिलाको ब्रा संकलन गरेर पछि पसल खोल्ने हो त ? या मानसिक रुपमा पागल हो ? वा उसमा यौनसम्बन्धी कुनै समस्या छ ? जो यस्तो खाले मुर्खता गरिरहेको छ । तर, यहाँ कथा अर्कै छ । यी ब्रा संकलन न मानसिक रोगी हुन् न त यौन रोगी नै ।
यो घटना न्युजिल्याण्डको हो । विदेशमा यस्ता अजबगजब घटना भइरहन्छन् । न्युजिल्याण्डको ओटछागोका महिलाहरुलाई आफूसँग भएको कुनै पनि प्रकारको ब्रा दिन आग्रह गरिएको थियो। महिलाहरुले पनि यो कार्यक्रममा उत्साहका साथ भाग लिए ।

यो सब विश्व रेकर्ड बनाउनका लागि गरिएको हो । त्यसैका लागि त्यहाँ डारगेविले गाइड लिडर रविन मार्टिनोविकले यसरी ब्रा कलेक्सन आयोजना गरेका हुन् । यसको उद्देश्य मानिसमा स्तन क्यान्सरप्रति जागरुक गराउनु थियो । साथै यो रेकर्ड बनाउँदा जम्मा हुने रकम क्यान्सर पीडितको सहयोगका लागि उपयोग गर्नु थियो । यो कार्यक्रमलाई ब्रेस्ट क्यान्सर पिन्क रिबल अपिल नाम दिइएको थियो । कार्यक्रममा ७४८५ वटा ब्रा संकलन गरेर ४९०४ मिटर लामो चेन बनाइएको थियो । यसअघि अस्ट्रेलियामा १६६,००० ब्रा संकलनको रेकर्ड कायम छ । गिनिज बुकमा यो रेकर्ड उल्लेख गरिएको छ । एजेन्सी -

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यस धरतीमा रुख बिरुवाको के कति महत्व र आवश्यक छ, त्यो हामी सबैलाई थाहा भएकै कुरा हो तर यही धरतीमाभएका अनौठो र उपयोगी गुणकारी रुख हालसम्म पनि आम मानिसले उपयोग गर्दै आइरहेका छन् । त्यसमध्येमा पनि आश्चर्यलाग्दो अनौठो रुख पनि छन्, जुन हाम्रो कल्पनाको संसारबाट टाढाको कुरा हुन सक्छ । यस्तै अनौठो रुखको बारेमा यहाँ चर्चा गर्दैछु ।
१. सर्वत दिने रुखः अस्ट्रेलियाको क्विसल्यान्ड सहरमा एउटा विशाल रुख छ, जसको आकार बोतल जस्तै छ । यस्को उचाई १५ मिटर र फेदको मोटाइ ८ मिटर छ । यस रुखको फेदमा काटेर हेर्ने हो भने यसबाट सर्वत जस्तै मीठो र स्वादिष्ट रस निस्कन्छ ।
२. दूध दिने रुखः दक्षिण अमेरिकामा पाइने भेनेजुएला म्याजिक टि्र (जादूको रुख) नामक रुखले गाई भैंसीको जस्तै दूध दिने गर्छ । यस रुखलाई दिनमा दुई पटकसम्म दुहिने गरिन्छ । साना-साना हाँगालाई थोरै थोरै काट्दा त्यहाँबाट दूधजस्तो थोपा निस्कन्छ जसलाई तताएर खाँदा गाई भैंसीको दूधजस्तै पोषिलो मिठास हुन्छ । यस्तै ब्राजिलको घना जंगलमा ‘काउ टि्र’ नामक रुख पाइन्छ । यसको हाँगामा प्वाल पार्दा गाई भैंसीको जस्तै पौष्टिक दूध निस्कन थाल्छ । त्यस्तो दूधलाई जङ्गलवासी भाँडामा जम्मा गरेर मजासँग पिउने गर्दछ । ब्राजिलवासी यस्तो दूधमा एक प्रकारको जङ्गली औषधि प्रयोग गरेर धेरै दिनसम्म सुरक्षित राख्छन् अनि आफूलाई खाँचो परेको बेलामा त्यसलाई प्रयोगमा ल्याउँछन् ।
३. पङ्खा वाला रुख: एसियामा पाइने एकप्रकारको सानोखाले रुखलाई टेलिग्राफ टि्र भनिन्छ । किनकि यसका पातहरू बिल्कुलै हावा नचलेको बेलामा पनि फ्याट-फ्याट गरी फड्काइरहन्छन् । मानौं यिनले पङ्खा हल्लाइरहेका छन् । मानिस यस रुख मुनि बसेर शीतलता लिने गर्दछ ।
४. उज्यालो दिने रुख: चीनको हुनान प्रान्तमा पाइएको एक रुखको प्रत्येक हाँगाबिङ्गाबाट उज्यालो प्रस्फुटित हुन्छ । यो रुखको एक टुक्रा बोक्रा मात्र पनि कोठामा राखियो भने प्रकाशमय हुन्छ । कुन कारणले गर्दा यो रुखबाट प्रकाश आउँछ ? भन्ने कुरा आजसम्म पनि वैज्ञानिकले पत्ता लगाउन सकेका छैन । यस्तै ‘सोम औषधि’ नामक यो रुख हिमालको आसपासमा पाइन्छ, जसले रेडियमको जस्तो उज्यालो प्रकाश दिन्छ । यस रुखमा शुक्ल पक्ष शुरु भएपछि प्रत्येक दिन एक-एक वटा पात थपि्रदै जान्छन् । पूणिर्माको दिनसम्ममा थपिएका पातको सङ्ख्या १५ पुग्छ । यसरी नै कृष्णपक्ष सुरु भएपछि प्रत्येक दिन एउटा पात झर्दै जान्छ र औंसीको दिनसम्ममा त्यस रुखमा एउटा पनि पात रहँदैनन् ।
५. मानवरूपी रुने रुख: अफ्रिकी देशहरूमा पाइने ‘सेराङ्क’ नामक रुखको बनावट मानिससँग मिल्दछ । यस रुखको अर्को विशेषता के छ भने यसलाई काट्दा वा उखेल्दा मानिसले जस्तै आवाज निकालेर रुने गर्दछ । यस्तै केनरी द्वीपमा पाइने ‘लाउरे मण्डक’ रुख टाढाबाट हेर्दा मान्छे जस्तो देखिन्छ । यसलाई काट्न वा उखेल्न खोज्दा बालक रोए झैं रोएको आवाज आउँछ । यस्तै अमेरिकाको मिसिगन प्रान्तको आलो क्लार्क नामक व्यक्तिको बगैंचामा एक यस्तो रुख छ, जुन झट्ट हेर्दा मानिसको आकृतिसँग ठ्याक्कै मिल्दछ । यस रुखमा मानिसको जस्तै हात, खुट्टा, टाउको छ । त्यति मात्र होइन टाउकोमा टोपी पनि लगाएको जस्तो देखिन्छ भने दाहिने हातमा सानो छडी पनि लिए जस्तो देखिन्छ ।
६. पातबिनाको रुख: वनस्पतिले पातबाट सास फेर्छन् यो हामी सबैलाई थाहा भएकै कुरा हो । तर प्रकृतिमा एउटा यस्तो पनि रुख हुन्छ, जसमा एउटा पनि पात हुँदैन । अङ्ग्रेजीमा रस्को एक्युलेट्स भनेर चिनिने एकप्रकारको वनस्पतिमा पात हुँदैनन् । तर यसका हाँगाहरू नै पातको आकारमा बनेका हुन्छन् । यसमा फूल पनि यिनै पातजस्तो बनेका शाखाका बीचबाट निस्कन्छ ।
७. सियो धागोयुक्त रुख: जंगलमा घुम्दाघुम्दै कतै आफूले लगाएको लुगा उभ्रे अथवा च्यातिए भने आफूसँग सियो धागो नहुँदा ‘सेन्चुरी प्लान्ट’ नामक रुख भेटिएमा लुगा सहजै सिउन सकिन्छ । यसको रुखका हाँगा मोटा खाले पात गुच्छाका रूपमा हुन्छन् । पातका टुप्पा सियोजस्तै तिखा र कडा हुन्छन् । कुनै पातलाई फेदैमा पट्याक्क भाँचेर टुप्पो भएको ठाउँभन्दा तल एउटा ढुङ्गाले किच्ने बित्तिकै पातमा रहेको दरिलो मोटो भाग पक्लक्क उकिन्छ र टुप्पो जस्ताको तस्तै रहन्छ तर टुप्पसँग गाँसिएर भित्रि रहेको धागो यथावत् रहन्छ र त्यसैले लुगा सिउन मिल्छ ।
८. मैनबत्ती दिने रुख: दक्षिण अफ्रिकामा एउटा यस्तो रुख पाइन्छ, जसले मैनबत्तीको काम गर्दछ । योरुखको हाँगाबाट १.५ मिटर जति लामो सलाइको जस्तै मोटो काँटी निस्किएको हुन्छ । त्यो देख्दा मैनबत्ती जस्तो देखिने मात्र नभएर मैनबत्ती जस्तै बल्ने काम पनि गर्दछ । यस्तै मध्य अष्ट्रेलियामा पाइने एकप्रकारको वनस्पतिमा जुन फूल फुल्दछ, त्यो हेर्दा मैनबत्ती जस्तै हुन्छ । त्यसैलेलाई अङ्ग्रेजीमा क्यान्डिल स्टिक्स अफ दसन् भनिन्छ । तर यो फूल एक बोटमा सात वर्षमा एकपल्ट मात्र निस्कन्छ ।
९. अन्धो पार्ने रुख: एब्सिनियामा पाइने अस्कलेपियास नामक रुखको पातबाट निरन्तर दूध जस्तो एकप्रकारको सेतो झोल बगिरहन्छ । यो झोल आँखामा अलिकति मात्र परे पनि मानिस अन्धो हुन्छ । यो रुखको दाउरा चिर्दा दाउरा छोएको हातले आँखा मिच्यो भने पनि मानिस अन्धो हुन सक्छ । यस्तै वेस्ट इन्डियनमा पाइने ‘मान्चिनील’ भन्ने रुख पनि साह्रै डरलाग्दो हुन्छ । यसको रसको सम्पर्कमा आउने अन्धा हुन्छन् र यस रुखको छहारीमा रातभरी सुत्ने मानिस मरेका पनि छन् ।
१०. कपडा दिने रुख: न्युजिल्यान्डमा पाइने ‘लेस वार्क टि्र’ नामक रुखबाट कपडा प्राप्त गर्न सकिन्छ । १० मिटरसम्मको उचाई हुने यो रुख सधँै हरियो भइरहन्छ । यस रुखको सानो हाँगो काट्ने बित्तिकै त्यसको भित्रबाट सेतो जालीदार बनेको कपडा जस्तो सुत्ला निस्कन्छ । यदि ठूलो हाँगा काटेमा दरिलो जालीदार कपडाको रास नै निस्कन्छ । त्यहाँका जङ्गलमा बस्ने आदिवासी त्यही जालीदार कपडाबाट दरी, झोला, मजेत्रा आदि बनाएर प्रयोगमा ल्याउँछन् ।
११. सङ्गीत उत्पन्न गर्ने रुख: लाल सागरदेखि नील नदीसम्म फैलिएको क्षेत्र नुबियामा सोफर नामको सङ्गीतमय रुख पाइन्छ । यो रुखको हाँगामा पोका-पोका निस्कन्छ । ती पोकामा कीराले स-साना प्वाल पार्छ र सोही प्वालमा हावा छिर्दा सुरिलो सुसेली सुनिन्छ । यस्तै जमैकामा बतास चल्दा चराले गाएजस्तो सुसेल्ने रुख पाइन्छ । त्यहाँका बासिन्दा उक्त रुखलाई बोक्सी रुख भन्ने गर्दछन् भने पूजाआजा पनि गर्छन् । त्यो रुख अँध्यारोमा रहस्यमय ढङ्गले चम्कन्छ पनि ।
१२. घिउ दिने रुख: अमेरिकामा पाइने विपिङ फर नामक रुखले मैनबत्ती आकारको फल फल्छ । यो फल ४ फिटसम्म लामो हुने गर्दछ । यसलाई पेलेर घिउ निकालिन्छ । गाईलाई ख्वाउँदा मोटाउँछ । यस्तै नेपालमा पनि च्युरी नामक रुखको फलको बियाँ पेलेर घिउ निकालिन्छ । यो घिउ,औषधि बनाउन, शरीरमा घस्न, बत्ती बाल्न र साबुन बनाउन प्रयोग हुन्छ ।
१३. कीरा फट्याँग्रा खाने रुख: अमेरिकामा एउटा अचम्मको रुख पाइन्छ, जसले अरु साधारण रुख झैं माटोबाट आहार प्राप्त नगरी कीरा फट्याँग्रा खाएर बाँच्ने गर्छ । तसर्थ यसको नाम पनि कामअनुसार ‘कोबरा’ वृक्ष राखिएको छ ।
१४. कुरा गर्ने रुख: ‘डेसियोडियम ड्राइक्वेट’ नामक रुखका पातबाट गर्मीको याममा मानिसले कुरा गरेझैं आवाज निस्कन्छ । त्यसका बासिन्दाले यस रुखलाई कुरा गर्ने रुख भन्ने गरिन्छ ।
१५. मांसाहारी रुख: अफ्रिकी महाद्वीप तथा मेडागास्कर द्वीपको घना जङ्गलमा यस्ता रुख पाइन्छन्, जसले मान्छे तथा जनावर मारेर खान्छन् । यस्ता रुखको उचाइँ २५ फिटसम्म हुन्छ । यस्ता रुखको शाखा हाँगाको अगाडिको भागमा ठूलाठूला थालका आकारका फूल हुन्छन् । यिनै हाँगामा १-२ फिट लामो नङ्ग्रा जस्ता तिखा काँटा हुन्छन् । असावधानीवश कुनै मानिस वा जनावर ती रुखको छेउमा पुगे भने ती काँटाले छेड्छन्, छेडेपछि शरीरबाट बगेको रगतलाई ती काँटाले सोसेर निल्दछन् । जब ती प्राणीको शरीरबाट रगत आउन छोड्छ तब काँटाले छोडिदिन्छन् । रगत खाएको बेला रुखमा रहेका फूल अझ ठूला हुन्छन्, केही दिन पछि फेरि साविककै आकारमा आउँछन् ।
१६. गोली जस्तै पड्किने रुख: मेक्सिकोमा एक किसिमको रुख पाइन्छ । जसमा फलेका फल पाकेपछि खुबै जोडसँग फुट्दछ । फुटेका फलका टुक्राले २० फिटको घेराभित्र बसेका मानिसलाई घाइते पार्न सक्छ ।
१७. हिँड्ने रुख: अमेरिकामा पाइने ‘मेलग्रोव’ नामक रुख सयौं मिटर अग्लो हुन्छ जुन ज्यादै मन्दगतिमा हजारौं फीट पर पुग्ने गर्दछ । त्यस्तै ‘टम्पवल पिङ्स’ नामक बिरुवा खास गरेर मरुभूमिको नजिक पाइन्छ । यसले आफ्नो जरामा रहेको पानी खाइसकेपछि आफैँ नै जरा बाहिर निकाल्छ र हुरी बतास चल्दा सो सँगसँगै धेरै टाढा नदी वा महासागरमा पुगी पानी खाई पुनः जरा गाड्छ ।
१८. बर्षा गराउने (पानी पार्ने) रुख: क्षेत्रमा पाइने एउटा रुखलाई ‘समानी समन’ भनिन्छ । यसलाई बर्षा गराउने रुखका रूपमा चिनिन्छ । यसले दिनमा आफ्नो कोसाहरुमा पानी जम्मा गर्दछ र उक्त जम्मा गरिएको पानी रातमा घना बर्षा जस्तै गरी बर्साउँछ ।
१९. एकपाखे रुख: ओरेगनमा कोलम्बिया नदी घाँटीका किनारमा उमि्रएका रुख सदैव एकपाखे (एकातिरमात्र सोहोरिएका) हुन्छन् । यी रुखले लगातार एकै दिशाबाट आउने यति भीषण हावाको सामना गरिरहनुपर्दछ कि यिनका सम्पूर्ण हाँगा हावाको बहावको दिशामा नै बढ्छन् । यसैकारण रुख एकपाखे बन्न जान्छन् ।
२०. हात्ती दाँते रुख: पश्चिमी मध्य अमेरिकामा एक किसिमको रुखमा निकै ठूला फल फल्छन् । यस्ता फललाई सुकाएर टाँक आदि बनाउने काममा प्रयोग गरिन्छ । झट्ट हेर्दा यस्ता फलबाट बनेका कुनै पनि चीज हात्तीको दाँतबाटै बनाइएका जस्ता देखिन्छन् ।
२१. तेल दिने रुख: ब्राजिलमा पाइएको ‘कोपिबिया’ नामक रुखबाट वर्षमा दुई पटक तेल झिक्न सकिन्छ । एकपटकमा झिकेको तेल २५ लिटरसम्म हुन्छ । यसलाई तत्कालै गाडीमा हाली प्रयोग गर्न सकिन्छ ।
२२. तुरुन्त घाउ ढाक्ने चोपवाला रुख: मेवाको फलमा बाहिरबाट पातलो चिरा लगाएर चोप निकाल्न सकिन्छ । तर यो चोपमा एउटा विचित्रको गुण हुन्छ । यहि गुणकाकारण नै यो चोप हावाको सम्पर्कमा आउनसाथ तुरुन्त जम्दछ र चिरिएको घाउको मुख बन्द गरिदिन्छ । यसबाट चोप निस्कन पनि तुरुन्त रोकिन्छ ।
२३. सम्पूर्ण मसलाको एउटै रुख: एउटा रुख जसको नाम नै यसको गुणको आधारमा ‘सम्पूर्ण मसला’ राखिएको छ । किनकि यसको फलमा ल्वाङ, तेजपात, दालचिनीको एकमुष्ट स्वाद र सुगन्ध पाउन सकिन्छ ।
२४. साबुन दिने रुख: उत्तर अमेरिकामा पाइने साबुन रुख पनि अति उपयोगी रुख मानिन्छ । बर्सेनि यो रुखमा सुपारी जत्रो फल फल्छ । फलभित्र नरम गुदी हुन्छ । गुदीको आधाभाग बसाउने साबुन हुन्छ, जसबाट राम्ररी फिँज निस्कन्छ, सो भेगका मानिस यसैबाट लुगा धुने गर्छन् ।
२५. पेटिकोट पाम रुख: क्यालिफोर्नियामा पाइने ‘वासिङ्गटोनिया पाम’ नामक रुखलाई पेटिकोट पाम पनि भन्न सकिन्छ । यसका पातले यसको बोटलाई अनौठो तरिकाले ढाकेर सूर्यका किरणबाट जोगाउँछन् । झ्वाट्ट हेर्दा त्यहाँ एक महिलाले आफ्नो शरीरलाई पेटिकोटद्वारा ढाकेको जस्तो देखिन्छ ।
२६. नुन दिने रुख: चीनको हिलोग जियाङ्ग र जीलीन प्रान्तमा पाइने एक किसिमको रुखबाट एक प्रकारको पाउडर निस्कन्छ । यो पाउडरबाट नुनको काम लिन सकिन्छ ।
२७. अचम्मको धोत्रे रुख: अफ्रिकामा पाइने ‘एण्डुसोनिया डिजीटोटा’ नामक रुख ज्यादै आश्चर्य लाग्दो छ, जसको जराको गहिराई सय मिटर तलसम्म गाडिएको हुन्छ । यसका हाँगा खोक्रो हुन्छन् र सो भागमा पानी भरेर राख्न सकिन्छ । एउटा रुखमा पाँच हजार लिटरसम्म पानी अटाउँछ । यही पानी रेगिस्तानका यात्रीलाई बेच्ने गरिन्छ । साथै यसका हाँगामा ठूला-ठूला प्वाल पारेर मरेको मानिसको शव राख्ने चलन पनि छ । यसमा राखेको शव कुनै औषधि विना नै जस्ताको तस्तै सयौं वर्षसम्म रहन्छ ।....
पहाडी गाउँघरमा जहाँ तागतिलो तथा पोषिलो खानेकुरा कम हुन्छन तर श्रम अन्य ठाउँमा भन्दा बढी गर्नु पर्ने हुन्छ । उकालो, ओरालो त्यस माथी पीठुमा भारी । तैपनि त्यहाँका मानिसहरु फुर्तिलोका साथ उकालो चढिरहेको हुन्छ । यसको रहस्य हो, चिप्लेकिरा । पहाडी गाउँघरमा मानिसहरु बर्षायाममा खोल्सा पाखा बारीमा चिप्लेकिरा खोज्न व्यस्त हुन्छन् ।
यी किरा खाँदा हाडजोर्नी दुखेको चोटपटक लागेको ठीक हुन्छन् । यसका साथै शरीरमा निकै ताकत बढ्छ । त्यसैले पहिले देखि औषधीको रुपमा चिप्लेकिरा खाने चलन रहन्दै आएको छ । मानिसहरुले मात्र होइन गोरुले खेत जोत्न सकेन भने पनि ताकतको लागि ताकतिलो खुराकका रुपमा चिप्लेकिरा खुवाउने चलन छ ।
भियग्रा यौन वर्धक औषधीको रुपमा विश्व प्रसिद्ध छ नेपालको हिमाली क्षेत्रमा पाइने यार्सागुम्बाभियग्रा भन्दा निकै प्रभावकारी भएको कुरा प्रमाणित भैसकेको छ । चिप्लेकिरा यार्सागुम्बा भन्दा पाउन सजिलो हुनुका साथै अझ प्रभावकारी भएको कुरा ती खाने व्यक्तिहरुले भन्दछन् । अरु समयमा भन्दा चिप्लेकिरा खाएको समयमा निकै यौन शक्ति निकै बढेको अनुभव पाइएको छ । यही गुणले गर्दाले पनि आजकलका युवाहरु अझ बढी चिप्लेकिरा तर्पु आकर्षित भएको छ ।
चिप्लेकिरा त्यतिकै खान घीन लाग्न सक्छ । तर यसलाई पानीमा राखेर केही समय चलाएमा केही भाग बाहेक यो पानीमा अथवा तातो दुधमा राख्यो भने अझ चाडै घुल्छ । अनी उक्तदुध या पानीलाई पिए हुन्छ । खैरो वा सुनौलो भन्दा कालो चिप्लेकिरा अति नै प्रभावकारी एवं शक्तिवर्धक हुन्छन् । त्यसैले एक पटकमा आधी वा एक चौथाइ मात्र खानु उपयुक्त हुन्छन् ।....
१) ईंग्लिश शब्द “queue” मात्र एउटा ईंग्लिश शब्द होजसको last को ४ वटा अक्षर हटाइदिए पनि same pronounced हुन्छ ।
२) ईंग्लिश शब्दहरुमा “Set” शब्दको सबैभन्दा धेरै परिभाषा हुन्छ ।
३) ईंग्लिशमा “French kiss” भनेर जुन शब्द चिनिन्छ त्यही शब्द फ्रान्समा “English kiss” भनेर चिनिन्छ ।
४) Alphabetical order मा भनेको सबै भन्दा लामो ईंग्लिश शब्द “Almost” हो ।
५) Vowel बिनाको लामो शब्द “Rhythm” हो ।
६) कि बोर्ड को एकै पँक्तीको अक्षर बाट बनेको शब्द Typewriter नै सबै भन्दा लामो शब्द हो ।
७) विश्वमा सबै भन्दा धेरै मिल्ने नाम “मोहम्मद” हो ।
८) १११,१११,१११ x १११,१११,१११ = १२,३४५,६७८,९८७,६५४,३२१ हुन्छ ।
९) औंलाको छाप हरेक मान्छेमा फरक फरक भए जस्तै जिब्रो को छाप पनि फरक फरक हुन्छ ।
१०) कक्रोच (साङ्लेकिरा) सँग बिकिरण सँग लड्न सक्ने धेरै क्षमता हुने हुनाले केही गरी परमाणु युद्ध भएमा कक्रोच (साङ्लेकिरा) नै एक मात्र जिवित जिव हुने सम्भावना छ ।

हामी सबैले ध्यान दिनै पर्ने १०० कुरा (100 Most Important Things)

Part 1: The Basics
1. What is your full name?
2. Where and when were you born?
3. Who are/were your parents? (Know their names, occupations, personalities, etc.)
4. Do you have any siblings? What are/were they like?
5. Where do you live now, and with whom? Describe the place and the person/people.
6. What is your occupation?
7. Write a full physical description of yourself. You might want to consider factors such as: height, weight, race, hair and eye color, style of dress, and any tattoos, scars, or distinguishing marks.
8. To which social class do you belong?
9. Do you have any allergies, diseases, or other physical weaknesses?
10. Are you right- or left-handed?
11. What does your voice sound like?
12. What words and/or phrases do you use very frequently?
13. What do you have in your pockets?
14. Do you have any quirks, strange mannerisms, annoying habits, or other defining characteristics?
Part 2: Growing Up
15. How would you describe your childhood in general?
16. What is your earliest memory?
17. How much schooling have you had?
18. Did you enjoy school?
19. Where did you learn most of your skills and other abilities?
20. While growing up, did you have any role models? If so, describe them.
21. While growing up, how did you get along with the other members of your family?
22. As a child, what did you want to be when you grew up?
23. As a child, what were your favorite activities?
24. As a child, what kinds of personality traits did you display?
25. As a child, were you popular? Who were your friends, and what were they like?
26. When and with whom was your first kiss?
27. Are you a virgin? If not, when and with whom did you lose your virginity?
28. If you are a supernatural being (i.e. mage, werewolf, vampire), tell thestory of how you became what you are or first learned of your own abilities. If you are just a normal human, describe any influences in your past that led you to do the things you do today.
Part 3: Past Influences
29. What do you consider the most important event of your life so far?
30. Who has had the most influence on you?
31. What do you consider your greatest achievement?
32. What is your greatest regret?
33. What is the most evil thing you have ever done?
34. Do you have a criminal record of any kind?
35. When was the time you were the most frightened?
36. What is the most embarrassing thing ever to happen to you?
37. If you could change one thing from your past, what would it be, and why?
38. What is your best memory?
39. What is your worst memory?
Part 4: Beliefs And Opinions
40. Are you basically optimistic or pessimistic?
41. What is your greatest fear?
42. What are your religious views?
43. What are your political views?
44. What are your views on sex?
45. Are you able to kill? Under what circumstances do you find killing to beacceptable or unacceptable?
46. In your opinion, what is the most evil thing any human being could do?
47. Do you believe in the existence of soul mates and/or true love?
48. What do you believe makes a successful life?
49. How honest are you about your thoughts and feelings (i.e. do you hideyour true self from others, and in what way)?
50. Do you have any biases or prejudices?
51. Is there anything you absolutely refuse to do under any circumstances? Why do you refuse to do it?
52. Who or what, if anything, would you die for (or otherwise go to extremes for)?
Part 5: Relationships With Others
53. In general, how do you treat others (politely, rudely, by keeping them at a distance, etc.)? Does your treatment of them change depending on how well you know them, and if so, how?
54. Who is the most important person in your life, and why?
55. Who is the person you respect the most, and why?
56. Who are your friends? Do you have a best friend? Describe these people.
57. Do you have a spouse or significant other? If so, describe this person.
58. Have you ever been in love? If so, describe what happened.
59. What do you look for in a potential lover?
60. How close are you to your family?
61. Have you started your own family? If so, describe them. If not, do you want to? Why or why not?
62. Who would you turn to if you were in desperate need of help?
63. Do you trust anyone to protect you? Who, and why?
64. If you died or went missing, who would miss you?
65. Who is the person you despise the most, and why?
66. Do you tend to argue with people, or avoid conflict?
67. Do you tend to take on leadership roles in social situations?
68. Do you like interacting with large groups of people? Why or why not?
69. Do you care what others think of you?
Part 6: Likes And Dislikes
70. What is/are your favorite hobbies and pastimes?
71. What is your most treasured possession?
72. What is your favorite color?
73. What is your favorite food?
74. What, if anything, do you like to read?
75. What is your idea of good entertainment (consider music, movies, art,etc.)?
76. Do you smoke, drink, or use drugs? If so, why? Do you want to quit?
77. How do you spend a typical Saturday night?
78. What makes you laugh?
79. What, if anything, shocks or offends you?
80. What would you do if you had insomnia and had to find something to do to amuse yourself?
81. How do you deal with stress?
82. Are you spontaneous, or do you always need to have a plan?
83. What are your pet peeves?
Part 7: Self Images And Etc.
84. Describe the routine of a normal day for you. How do you feel when this routine is disrupted?
85. What is your greatest strength as a person?
86. What is your greatest weakness?
87. If you could change one thing about yourself, what would it be?
88. Are you generally introverted or extroverted?
89. Are you generally organized or messy?
90. Name three things you consider yourself to be very good at, and threethings you consider yourself to be very bad at.
91. Do you like yourself?
92. What are your reasons for being an adventurer (or doing the strange and heroic things that RPG characters do)? Are your real reasons for doing this different than the ones you tell people in public? (If so, detail both sets of reasons...)
93. What goal do you most want to accomplish in your lifetime?
94. Where do you see yourself in 5 years?
95. If you could choose, how would you want to die?
96. If you knew you were going to die in 24 hours, name three things you would do in the time you had left.
97. What is the one thing for which you would most like to be remembered after your death?
98. What three words best describe your personality?
99. What three words would others probably use to describe you?
100. If you could, what advice would you, the player, give to your character? (You might even want to speak as if he or she were sitting right here in front of you, and use proper tone so he or she might heed your advice...)

Powder Room is a rare film all about women, and all the more universal for it

 

A new British film, Powder Room, released next month,  features an all-female five-piece rock band, Fake Club. Which, if you watched a lot of editions of Top of the Pops in the 1970s, is nice. Back then, though female singers existed, no women actually played musical instruments, apart from Suzi Quatro. Though lots of the men had long hair, or wore makeup, presumably in compensation.

That, however, is not the only respect in which Powder Room is notable, gender-wise. It's being described as the British Bridesmaids, since it's a comedy about and for women. But, unlike Bridesmaids, it has no male lead characters – just a couple of tiny walk-on parts. This is not surprising, bearing in mind that nearly all of the action is set in the ladies loo of a nightclub. Yet, at the same time, it's surprising, if not unique. If a feature film with a higher female-to-male on-camera ratio has ever been made, then I'd like to know what it is.

Does it matter, mere critical mass of female presence, regardless of whether the film is any good or not? It most certainly does. A film that barely features a woman at all – Reservoir Dogs, say – isn't remarkable for that fact. One doesn't even notice. But a film that's all about women, well, that's both a marker of how far we have come in the last 50 years or so, and also marker of how very far we have yet to go.

As it happens, Powder Room, by first-time director MJ Delaney, is a good and interesting film, with some caveats. It's a low-budget film, so its necessarily limited. It's based on a play, When Women Wee, by Rachel Hirons, and it shows – it has the feel of a filmed play, not a movie. While the club-lavvy set-up is a solid device, it's hard to believe that the disparate women who feature really would all find themselves on a night out at the same place. But, hey, they do. An excellent cast, including Sheridan Smith, Jamie Winstone and Kate Nash, has the acting ability to smooth out a lot of the film's shortcomings.

The central character is Sam, played by Smith, who meets up at this unlikely venue with a college friend she hasn't been in contact with for a long time. The friend has been living in Paris for some years, where she enjoys a successful career running a fashion website with her sophisticated and beautiful French friend (whom she has somewhat inexplicably chosen to bring to this colourful dive back in the UK). She's about to get married to some marvellous guy who adores her. Sam feels so intimidated by these women, and so inadequate, that she fictitiously claims that she's now working as a lawyer, and about to move in with a lovely boyfriend.

The discomfort of the lies is made even worse when Sam's usual crowd, led by Jamie Winstone's Chanel, all turn up. Sam feels compelled to spend the entire evening making sure that the snotty fashionistas don't get wind of the fact that she even knows the rowdy and attention-seeking group of sensation-hungry hedonists that the pair have decided make such hilariously appalling entertainment.

A great strength of the film is that Sam, in her idle boasts and denial of the women she relies on for friendship, doesn't come across as a shallow hypocrite. She's unhappy and vulnerable, dissatisfied with her life, depressed, desperate for change yet unable to make it – like a lot of people. She's dissastisfied with her friends as well. The cliche is that women are great because they're such supportive mates to each other. In Powder Room, female friendships are portrayed as much more contingent. These women are clinging to each other because each other is the best they can do. Much as Sam despises the pretentious Paris girls, it's their approval and friendship that she craves.

One of the problems that arises out of the paucity of material focused on women and their lives is that when something like Powder Room does come along, the temptation is to see it as universal, a comment on what all women's lives are like, not just a narrative about one bunch of people in a certain place at a certain time. Which, of course, it is. No one, after all, ever started declaring that Reservoir Dogs was really a film about what it is to be a man.

Yet, the portrayal of femininity in Powder Room, humorous and outrageous as it is meant to be, is also disturbing. It will certainly offer comfort to those who like to promote moral panic. The drinking, the drug-taking, the pursuit of uber-casual sex, the Miley Cyrus-style twerking, the petty theft and violence that forms the backdrop of the film speaks of what used to be discussed as "ladette culture" – the idea that feminism has liberated women to behave just as badly as the ghastly lads whose seedy magazines are currently being driven off the shelves of All Good Bookshops.

Powder Room seems to suggest that such behaviour is inspired by feelings of unhappiness, inadequacy and emptiness, which few feminists would altogether deny might motivate men who behave in the same way. Yet, when pictures of half-dressed, vomiting girls appear in the tabloids, the liberal response is to suggest that this is a nasty strategy that seeks to demonise modern women.

Jarvis Cocker, in his celebrated song with Pulp, Common People, described men and women whose lives "slide out of view, who dance and drink and screw, because there's nothing else to do". That observation struck a chord with a lot of people, and Powder Room brought it to the forefront of my mind again. The idea of living for Saturday night, to let off stream and discard inhibitions is well understood. But that desperation is not confined to the unsuccessful. You only have to witness oligarchs in Ibiza throwing parties to buy glamorous guests, or money-men in lapdancing clubs in the City of London, to see that it's a lifestye choice lots of people make.

In Powder Room, everyone is desperately trying to have a good time. They've all come to a place designed expressly for the purpose. But none of them succeed – quite the contrary. Everyone is having a miserable time, and doing their best to keep that a secret from everyone else. The odd, rather terrific thing is that even though – or perhaps because – the film is all about women, it becomes much more about people than a film doing the more usual thing of looking at the relationships between the sexes could ever manage.

What's great is that Powder Room has emotional truth. One suspects that it would be more fun to go to the film with a crowd of friends, then talk about it, than it would be to go to the nightclub. My suspicion is that if there was a great deal more material like this – that looks hard and honestly at what it's like to be a woman in this world and this culture at this time, then we'd also gain a great deal more understanding of what it is to be a human in this world.

6 Extreme Animals Sure To Survive The Apocalypse

If we've learned anything from science class, it's that nature is constantly trying to kill us. No matter how hard it tries though, it will never take down these animals.

The Devil Worm

Can survive: Crippling pressure, lack of oxygen, high temperature.

This species of nematode, only recently discovered in 2011, has been found living up to 2.2 miles below the surface of the Earth. It blew away the previous record for multicellular organisms by a full mile. These worms spend their lives in total darkness, drinking 12,000 year old water and eating simple bacteria.

The Himalayan Jumping Spider

Can survive: Low pressure, freezing temperatures.

The polar opposite of the devil worm, this spider holds the record for the animal that claims residency at a higher point than any other (4.1 miles above sea level). It’s able to survive long periods without food, freezing temperatures, and a distinct lack of atmospheric pressure. The only sources of nutrition available to the Himlayan jumping spider are the tiny insects that get blown up the mountain by the high winds.

The Immortal Jellyfish

Can survive: The aging process.

These jellyfish have the ability to revert back to their infant stages in adverse conditions, making them effectively immortal. There doesn't seem to be any limit on the number of times that they are able to revert back to their infancy. Unfortunately, they're highly vulnerable to predation and disease every time they live out their immature, smaller stages.

The Red Flat Bark Beetle

Can survive: Extreme cold.

This insect, which is native to the northern areas of Alaska and Canada, is able to resist temperatures up to -150 degrees Celsius (-238 Fahrenheit) by producing an antifreeze protein that prevents the crystallization of its blood. Its blood is also fortified with glycerol, which further halts freezing.

The Pompeii Worm

Can survive: Extreme heat, variance in temperature.

These deep-sea worms live exclusively in thermal vents in the ocean floor. Their tails are in the vents, which achieve temperatures up to 176 degrees Fahrenheit. Their heads however, poke out of the vents in order for the pompeii worms to capture prey. This results in half of their bodies experiencing temperatures over 100 degrees lower. It's thought that their resistance to heat is due to a coating of specialized bacteria on their bodies, which may provide a large degree of insulation for the worm.

The Tardigrade

Can survive: Basically anything.

These millimeter long, segmented animals can survive just about everything. Temperatures between just above absolute zero and 300 degrees Fahrenheit are no problem. 1200 times atmospheric pressure? The tardigrade just shrugs it off. It doesn’t really care about dehydration either, seeing as it can go 10 years without water. 1,000 times the lethal dose of radiation for humans is another non-factor. When testing the true extent of the tardigrade's resilience, scientists went so far as to send it to outer space in 2007. The result? Most of the tardigrades that went on the mission came back entirely unscathed. Plus they're kind of weirdly adorable.

Stop Girl Trafficking

  The way we combat this modern-day slavery is revolutionary – and surprisingly effective …
OUR APPROACH

We go to the source, into the villages where girls are at risk, and put those girls into school. We counsel them and their families about the dangers of trafficking. By keeping at-risk girls in school and living at home, they are less vulnerable to being sold or lured by promises of jobs, only to find themselves in brothels or trapped as slaves in households. For a small investment – $100 pays for everything: school fees, books, school uniforms, tutoring – we can keep a girl safe for whole year. Persuading families to educate their daughters was slow going at first, but 10,000 girls later – without one being lost – the idea is gaining traction.   
HOW IT ALL STARTED

Dr. Aruna Uprety, our visionary partner, went to the brothels in India where more than a hundred thousand Nepali girls are trapped, hoping to convince some to come home. To her great surprise, they told her, “It’s too late for us. If we had known anything, if we had been able to go to school and learn and work, we would never have landed here. Please, keep this from happening to other girls.” The heartbreak of their situation pushed her to focus on prevention – breaking the cycle of trafficking from the start. She pioneered the approach of getting at-risk girls into school, and our partnership with her has saved thousands of young lives.
IT WORKS

In the beginning, it was hard to convince families that sending girls to school was worthwhile.  Fifteen years ago we started with 54 girls.  This year we have 10,000 in 400 schools across Nepal, and we haven’t lost one girl to trafficking.  Not one.  Reluctance to send girls to school is dropping away, and whole villages are asking to be included in our work.  Educating the most at-risk girls in a village spreads enough knowledge to keep traffickers at bay.

any as 20,000 girls from the poorest parts of Nepal are trafficked – lured by the false promises of traffickers. These girls, some as young as nine, end up in Indian brothels or as domestic servants in countries as far away as the Middle East. In either case, they’re slaves. Many are HIV positive within two years, and dead before they reach twenty.

राम्री युवती देखेपछि मुटुको धड्कन किन बढ्छ

राम्री युवती देखेपछि मुटुको धड्कन किन बढ्छ ? भन्ने प्रश्न मा विभिन्न व्यक्तिहरुले दिएको उतार यस्तो छ :-
तपाईंलाई दमको रोग छ कि क्या हो सम्पादकज्यू ? चाँडै उपचार गराउने हो कि ?
- त्रिदेव
यो शरीरभित्रको कुनै केमिकलका कारणले हो।
- आशिष राहुल
त्यस्तो हुँदैन। त्यो त बानी हो नि।
- सफल पिके
त्यही त हो रूपको शक्ति भनेको।
- शशि मगर
आफ्नै केटी साथीलाई देखे जस्तो लाग्छ, त्यसैले।
- रमेश सिग्देल
राम्रो चिज कसलाई मन पर्दैन र ? राम्रो चिज देखेपछि मुटु धड्कन बढिहाल्छ नि।
- मुना भण्डारी
त्यो त मानिसको स्वभाव नै होला नि। अरू कारण त के होला र ?
- शोभा पाठक
राम्रा युवतीको छेउ पर्ने बित्तिकै मेरो त मुटु नै पड्किन खोज्छ।
- युगेश राई, संगीत
निहुँ मात्र राम्री युवतीको हो, दमको बिमारी अथवा क्षयरोगले च्यापेको हुनसक्छ।
- कमला राई
यस्तो प्रश्न गरेर युवाहरूलाई भड्काकाउन खोजेको हो ?
- खुम रायमाझी
यौनचाहनाले हो कि ?
- हीरा
त्यस्तो पनि हुन्छ र ? मेरो त -धड्कन) बढ्दैन।
- मनोज महत
भगवानले नै यस्तै बनाइदिएका छन् नि त।
- राजेश कट्टेल
राम्रीलाई देखेपछि होइन माया गर्नेलाई देखेपछि चाहिँ त्यस्तो हुन्छ।
- उज्ज्वल थापा काजी
अनि नराम्रीलाई देख्दाचाहिँ के हुन्छ ? अचम्म छ बा।
- सुवास उप्रेती
किन र ? राम्रीलाई देख्दा तपाईंको पनि ढुकढुकी बढ्छ र ?
- रकि झापाली
राम्रो मान्छे देखेपछि के गर्ने के-कसो गर्ने भन्ने उकुसमुकुस हुन्छ, त्यसैले होला।
- सन्देश कठायत
खोइ, आफ्नो आँखाले त सबैलाई राम्रो नै देख्छ। धड्कन बढ्ने कुराचाहिँ आँखा र मुटुको सम्बन्ध भएर पो हो कि ?
- गंगा विवश गिरी
मेरो त जस्तै युवती देखे पनि धड्कन बढ्छ।
- विज्ञान अधिकारी
राम्री केटी हिरोइनजस्ता हुन्छन्, मुटुको धड्कन त बढिहाल्छ नि।
- तेजन क्षेत्री
मेरो त मुटुको धड्कन बढ्नुभन्दा पनि आँखा फर्फराउँछ। यो पापी आँखा किन फर्फराउँछ थाहा छैन।
- प्रज्वल सैंजु
हंसले ठाउँ छाडेर होला नि।
- भीम योगी
आफूलाई आक्रमण गरिहाल्छिन् कि भनेर हो कि ?
- नवीन थापा
के हो सम्पादक ज्यू, भाउजुलाई मन पराउन छाड्नु भो कि क्या हो ? तर धड्कन बढे पनि के गर्नु, आकाशको फल आँखा तरी मर त हो नि।
- धु्रव लामिछाने
मलाइचाहिँ अहिलेसम्म त्यस्तो भएको छैन। बरु यस्तै प्रश्न युवतीहरूसँग सोधे कसो होला ?
- रामजी चौधरी
खै, किन होला थाह भएन।
- सरिता गुरुङ
युवतीहरूमा चुम्बक हुन्छ होला नि। त्यही भएर युवाहरू आकषिर्त हुन्छन् र उनीहरूको मुटुकोे धड्कन बढ्छ।
- रौनक बस्नेत
राम्रीलाई कसरी आफ्नो बनाउने भन्ने चिन्ताले होला। यस्तो सबैलाई हुन्छ।
- नवजीवन चौधरी
यो पनि भनि रहनु पर्ने कुरा हो र ? मुटुको काम नै धड्किने हो। कहिले छिटो, कहिले ढिलो त भैहाल्छ नि।
- सुमनकुमार श्रेष्ठ
यस्ता सबै कुरा थाहा भएको भए त कहाँ आफ्नी प्रेमिकालाई गुमाउनुपथ्र्यो र ?
- असफल लभ्ली काफ्ले
विपरीत लिंगीमा हुने आकषर्णले होला।
- सन्तोष गाउँले
राम्रीको अगाडि पर्दा नराम्रो देखिन्छु भन्ने डरले हो कि ?
- कीर्ति चौधरी
धड्कनभन्दा पनि सेक्स डिजायरचाहिँ पक्कै बढ्छ।
- राज
युवतीहरूप्रति बढी क्रेजी भएर होला।
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विलासिताले बढाउँदै छ सम्बन्धविच्छेद

लन्डन, आश्विन २६ - जिन्दगीको लामो यात्रासँगै छिचोल्ने प्रतिज्ञा गरेर साढे चार वर्षअघि बिहे बन्धनमा बाँधिए । रमेश र शिला (नाम परिवर्तन) । बिहेलगत्तै अध्ययनका लागि बेलायतको टियर फोर भिसा मिल्यो । नयाँ सम्बन्ध, नयाँ परिवेश र नयाँ आकांक्षा । दिनचर्या कम रोमाञ्चक रहेन । श्रीमती विद्यार्थी, श्रीमान् डिपेन्डेन्ट भएकाले फुलटाइम जव । परिश्रमको कदर हुने देशमा नियमित आम्दानीले केहीको अभाव हुने त कुरै भएन । घुमफिर, मोजमस्ती । वैवाहिक सम्बन्ध मजबुत थियो । तर समय बित्दै जाँदा रमेशमा पाश्चात्य प्रभाव देखिन थाल्यो । विदेशी साथीबाट उसले नाइट आउट, सोसलाइज, फन इत्यादि सिक्यो ।

समयमा कहिल्यै घर नआउने, घर व्यवहार भद्रगोल छ । एक पैसा बचत छैन । उसका यस्तै क्रियाकलापले दाम्पत्य जीवनको त्यो रमाइलो विगत विस्तारै मेटिँदै गयो । एकापसमा कुरै नमिल्ने । अन्ततः बिहेको चार वर्षपछि शिला आफ््नो वैवाहिक सम्बन्ध समापनतिर लागेकी छिन् । उनले एउटा कानुनी र्फममा दाखिल गरेको सम्बन्ध विच्छेद (डिभोर्स) फाइलमा वैचारिक मतभेद र आफ्नो भावनाको कदर नभएको निवेदन छ । उता रश्मी र हेम (दुवै नाम परिवर्तन) को कहानी बेग्लै छ । १२ वर्षअघि बेलायत छिरेको हेम विद्यार्थी भिसाबाटै पीआर पाए ।

उनी विद्युतीय सामान बेच्ने एउटा कम्पनीमा कार्यरत छन् । बेलायत टेकेको ७ वर्षपछि नेपाल गएर उनले घरजम गरे । आफूभन्दा ज्यादै कम उमेरकी श्रीमती । साथमै ल्याएपछि दुवै बेलायतको व्यस्त दैनिकीमा रमाउन थाले । हेम काममा बढी नै व्यस्त हुने । तर रश्मीको थोरै जागिर ज्यादा घरायसी काम थियो । श्रीमान्को यथेस्ट कमाइ अनि बेलायती रमझमले रश्मीमा क्रमशः परिवर्तन देखिन थाल्यो । अधिकांश समय फेसबुक च्याट, विकेन्डमा गेट टुगेदर अनि साथीभाइसँग आउटिङले परपुरुषसँग उनको हिमचिम बढेपछि यी दुई जिन्दगीको रथसँगै तान्न नसक्ने निष्कर्षसहित सम्बन्धलाई बाइबाइ गर्दैछन् ।

 सँगै बाँच्ने सँगै मर्ने कसम त्यति दिगो नहुने रहेछ, समय र परिस्थितिले । अझ बेलायत जस्तो विकसित देशमा रहेर वैवाहिक सम्बन्ध टिकाउन त झन् चुनौती रहेको यी उदाहरण मात्र हुन् । वैचारिक मतभेद, आर्थिक समस्या, जागिरको व्यस्तताले एकअर्कालाई पर्याप्त समय दिन नसक्नु, महिला अधिकार प्रत्याभूति, बढ्दो स्वतन्त्रता महसुस र साथीसंगीको मिल्नुभन्दा छोडी दे यार.. जस्तो आलोकाँचो सुझावले डिभोर्स क्रम वृद्धि भइरहेको छ । दूतावासमार्फत डिभोर्सका लागि वारेसनामा दिन आउनेको संख्या बढिरहेको लन्डनस्थित नेपाली दूतावासले जनाएको छ ।

दूतावासले गत भदौ महिनामा मात्र डिभोर्स र जग्गाका लागि ३१ वटा वारेसनासम्बन्धी काम गरेको थियो । समाजशास्त्र पढेका बेलायतका लागि नेपाली राजदूत डा. सुरेशचन्द्र चालिसेले यो क्रम बढिरहेको जनाउँदै सम्बन्ध विच्छेद बढ््नुका केही कारण ठम्याए । उनकै शब्दमा, सम्बन्ध टुंग्याउने सवालमा महिला अग्रपंक्तिमा छन् । खुला पाश्चात्य संस्कृति र पर्यावरणको प्रभाव, आत्मनिर्भरता, महिला पुरुष समान भनेर रटाउने आधुनिक शिक्षा अनि देश छाडेर आएपछि परिवर्तन हुने विलासी मानसिकता र स्वतन्त्रता आपसी सम्बन्धका तगारो हुन् चालिसेको बुझाइमा ।


'महिलाले गर्छु भनेपछि केही गर्ने कुरै आउँदैन,' चालिसे भन्छन्, 'बेलायतले महिला अधिकार बढी दिएकाले पनि यो गर्न आत्मबल बढेको हुनुपर्छ ।' यस्ता मुद्दा धेरै सम्हालिरहेको छ लन्डन इलिङस्थित व्यस्त कानुनी र्फम 'एभरेस्ट ल सोलिसिटर्स' ले पनि । र्फमका पि्रन्सिपल एवं पहिलो नेपाली सोलिसिटर राजु थापाको बुझाइमा विशेष गरी नेपाली समुदायभित्र घरेलु हिंसा सम्बन्ध तोडिनुको प्रमुख कारक छ । 'सधैं घर झगडा भएर सम्बन्धलाई तिलाञ्जलि दिनेहरू धेरै छन्,' थापाले भने । प्रजातान्त्रिक देशमा पनि किन अत्याचार वा असन्तुष्टि खेपेर बस्नु भन्ने मानसिकता पनि अर्को कारण देख्छन् थापा । बेलायत भित्रिने उद्देश्यले नक्कली बिहे गरी डिपेन्डेन्टमा आएका धेरै युवायुवती पनि अहिले वैवाहिक जीवन समाप्तितिर लागिरहेको थापाले जनाए । विशेष गरी १८ देखि २२ वर्ष उमेरका केटाकेटी पुरानो बनावटी बिहे (भावनात्मक नभए पनि कानुनमा चाहिँ सक्कली नै हो) टुंग्याएर अर्को जीवन सुरु गर्न लागेका हुन् ।

सन् २००९, मार्चमा बेलायत सरकारले टियर फोरको कानुनी ल्याएपछि धेरै विद्यार्थी नक्कली बिहे गरेर यता आए । तर त्यतिबेलाको सम्बन्ध केवल उद्देश्य पूर्तिका लागि भएकाले अहिले उनीहरू त्यसलाई टुंग्याएर अर्को जीवन सुरु गर्न चाहन्छन् । श्रीमान्-श्रीमती दुवै बेलायतमा सँगै रहेर अलग्गिन चाहने एकथरी छन् भने अर्कोतिर कुनै एक पक्ष नेपाल र अर्को बेलायत रहेर प्रत्यक्ष नभेटी बीचैमा सम्बन्ध टुंग्याउन खोज्ने पनि छन् । बेलायत-नेपाल जहाँ रहे पनि डिभोर्स प्रक्रिया बढाउन सकिने प्रावधान छ ।


नेपालको कानुनअनुसार, केटा वा केटी पक्षले आफू निकटलाई दूतावासमार्फत अख्तियार अर्थात् वारेसनामा दिएर विदेशबाटै सजिलै टुंग्याउन सक्छन् सम्बन्ध । बेलायतमै रहेका जोडीलाई भने प्रक्रिया अलिक भिन्न छ । सोलिसिटर थापाले बेलायतमा सम्बन्ध विच्छेद गर्न सकिने पाँच आधार रहेको प्रस्ट्याए । पहिलो, सम्बन्ध कायमै रहेका बेला कुनै एक पक्षले दोस्रो सम्बन्ध गाँसेमा (एडल्ट्री), दोस्रो, अनुचित व्यवहार गरेमा (गालीगलौज, घरेलु हिंसा, अपमान आदि), तेस्रो, बिनाकारण छोडेर गएको अवस्थामा, चौथो, दुई वर्ष निरन्तर एक अर्काबीच अलग्गिएर बसेको र सहमतिमा छुट्टनि चाहेमा र अन्तिम, पाँच वर्षसम्म एक अर्काबीच छुट्टिएर बसेको अवस्थामा अरू प्रमाणबिना नै सम्बन्ध विच्छेद भएको ठहरिनेछ ।

Women who broke the rules in Nepal

Women who broke the rules in Nepal
Photojournalist Arantxa Cedillo has worked all over Southeast Asia, including Vietnam, Laos and Cambodia. But in 2011 she decided to spend a few years in Nepal. She says it interested her because it's a country in constant political turmoil, as well as "one of the most beautiful corners of the world."
While in Kathmandu, she heard numerous stories of discrimination against women and decided to pursue a project focusing on the strong women who had fought back against entrenched sexism there. The women she profiled were the first to break rules in their fields in Nepal — women who now are powerful representatives of change.
Cedillo's portraits cover a wide range of women, including a former sex slave, an elephant trainer, a swimmer, and the first female pilot in the country. Each photo includes a statement from a woman telling a small part of her personal story.
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Maiya Bisunkhe was born without her right hand and had to beg for her living. Today she is a promising sprinter. "I don't remember my mother's face. I had to face many struggles on my own when I was little because my father was sick and my brother small."
Courtesy of Arantxa Cedillo
Cedillo says that finding women to participate was a challenge at first, but once she got started the project grew organically.
"All the women I photographed were very determined to [tell] their stories and hope to bring some positive change," she says.
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Source : npr.org - From Women Who Broke The Rules In Nepal

विधवा जीवन बिताईरहेका महिलाहरुको लागि यौनेच्छा व्यवस्थापनका उपायहरु

भर्खरै २५ वर्षपुगेकी सबिना बिस्तारै आफ्नो जीवनको यथार्थमा र्फकंदै छे । श्रीमान्को अचानक मृत्यु भएपछि काजक्रिया र विपदको व्यवस्थापनमा नै ४-५ महिना बित्यो । अब ऊ बिस्तारै आफ्नो जीवनलाई नियाल्दै छे । आफ्ना श्रीमान्सँग बिताएका सुमधुर सम्झनाहरू दिमागमा प्रशस्त आउने गर्छन्, रमाइला ठाउँमा घुमेको, जिस्किएको र यौन क्रियाकलापका बारेमा पनि यादहरु आइरहेका छन् । उसले आफूलाई नितान्त एक्ली महसुस गरिरहेकी छे, यौनको मामिलामा झनै एक्ली । तीव्र यौनचाहनाले सताउन थालेको छ उसलाई । कसरी यसलाई शान्त पार्ने भन्ने प्रश्न मनमा खेलिरहन्छ । कयौं पल्ट मनमा कुनै व्यक्तिसँग सुटुक्क सम्बन्ध गाँसौं कि भन्ने कुरा पनि आउँछ । तर यस्तो त गर्न हुन्न, समाजले के भन्ला, घर-परिवार, आमाबाबुले के भन्नुहोला - सासू-ससुराले कस्तो मान्नुहोला - भन्ने त्रासले आफ्नो चाहनालाई जबरजस्ती दबाउँछे । तर उसलाई यो कुरा दबाइराख्न गाह्रो भएको छ । कुन बेला विस्फोट होला भन्ने लाग्छ, एक किसिमको भयले उसलाई गाँज्छ । के गर्ने होला भन्ने प्रश्नको जवाफमा आफूलाई भौंतारिरहेकी पाउँछे । विवाहको बेलामा लामो समयसम्म साथै रहने बाचा गरे पनि यथार्थमा कहिलेकाहीँ त्यसो हँुदैन । कलिलै उमेरमा कयौं महिलाका पतिको मृत्यु भएको हुन्छ र उनीहरुको पनि सबिनाको जस्तै निस्सासिंदो लामो जीवन बाँकी रहेको हुन्छ ।
केही समुदायलाई छोडेर हर्ेर्ने हो भने नेपाली समाजजस्तै कतिपय अन्य समाज पनि पितृसत्तात्मक छ । यस्तो समाजमा त्यसै पनि महिलाले निकै दुःख पाएका हुन्छन् । विभिन्न अवरोध मात्रै होइन प्रत्यक्ष-अप्रत्यक्ष हिंसाको सामना गर्नुपरिरहेको स्थिति छ । त्यसमा पनि कुनै महिला विधवा भएपछि उनीप्रति हुने व्यवहार निकै कठोर हुन्छ । विधवा हुनुभन्दा पहिले र भइसकेपछिको व्यक्ति उही हो, अनि उसको बानी-व्यवहार, आकांक्षा पनि उस्तै हुन्छ भन्ने कुरा समाजले सहजरुपमा स्वीकार गरेको देखिन्न । विधवा हुनुभन्दा अघि र पछिको सामाजिक सबन्धमा आकाश-जमिनको फरक देखिन्छ । सो व्यक्तिको सामाजिक हैसियत अनि दायरा निकै संकुचित भएको देखिन्छ ।
विशेष गरेर युवावस्थामा नै विधवा हुनुपर्दा अन्य सामाजिक कुरामा असजिलो त हुन्छ नै । यौनेच्छा कसरी पूरा गर्ने भन्ने बारेमा धेरैले सोच्न पनि सक्दैनन् । एकातिर पतिवियोगको पीडा र त्यसले निम्त्याएका अनेक समस्यासँग जुध्नु त छँदै छ, अर्कोतिर विधवा महिलामा मनभित्रका यौनेच्छालाई दबाएर बस्नुपर्ने बाध्यता हुन्छ । यौनभावनाको व्यवस्थापन कसैको लागि पनि सजिलो कुरा होइन तर विधवा महिलाको लागि यो कुरा झन् अति नै गाह्रो हुन जान्छ ।
विधवा महिलाले लैरुकि विभेदयुक्त शोषण र हिंसाको सिकार बन्नुपरेको छ । हिंसामुक्त रुपमा बाँच्न पाउनु सबैको मौलिक अधिकार हो र प्रजनन तथा यौनस्वास्थ पनि आधारभूत अधिकार हो । इच्छा हँुदाहुँदै पनि अर्को विवाह गर्न वर्जित गरिनु महिलामाथिको हिंसाको एक रुप हो । जोडी बाँधेर यौनजीवनलाई सुखमय तरिकाले बिताउन समाजले विवाहको माध्यमबाट मान्यता दिएको भए पनि यो छुट सामान्यतया विधवा महिलालाई छैन ।
परम्पराका कुरा
वर्तमान नेपाली समाजमा पनि अन्धविश्वास धेरै छ । विधवा विवाह स्वीकार्य छैन र मानिसहरु परम्परा नै त्यस्तै रहेको ठान्छन् । तर वास्तवमा भारतवर्षा हर्ेर्ने हो भनेे हिन्दू समाजमा विभिन्न स्थितिमा विवाहित महिलाको पुनर्विवाह भएका उदाहरण छन् । नारद पुराणमा विभिन्न किसिमका विधवा विवाहहरूको चर्चा गरिएको छ ।
पुरातनकालदेखि नै कतिपय स्थितिमा पतिका भाइले विधवा भएकी महिलालाई विवाह गर्ने गरेको देखिन्छ । वशिष्ठ तथा कौटिल्यजस्ता विद्वान्हरु विधवा विवाहको पक्षमा झनै उदार बनेको देखिन्छ । महिला अधिकारलाई त्यति उदार रुपले नहर्ेर्ने मानिएको मनुस्मृतीले समेत यौनसर्म्पर्क नभएकी महिलाले पुनः विवाह गर्न हुने कुरा उल्लेख गरेको छ । तर समयसँगै परम्परामा परिवर्तन भएको छ । विशेष गरेर दशौं तथा एघारौं शताब्दीमा विवधा विवाह फेरि वर्जित गरिंदै गएको देखिन्छ तर अहिले संसारका कतिपय मुलुकमा विधवा विवाह हुँदै आएको छ र यसलाई स्वाभाविक मानिदै आएको पनि छ ।
केही समुदायलाई छोडेर नेपाली समाजमा विधवाको पुनर्विवाह वर्जित मानिन्छ । जति नै उमेरको भए पनि वास्तविक रुपमा पतिसँग नबसेको भए पनि विधवा भएपछि पुनः अर्को वैवाहिक सम्बन्ध बनाउनलाई विभिन्न किसिमले रोक लगाएको देखिन्छ । धेरैजसो स्थितिमा सामाजिक र काुननी रुपमा पैतृक सम्पत्तिमा अर्को सम्बन्ध स्थापित गरेपछि अधिकार दाबी गर्न असजिलो पारिएको छ । विधवा महिलालाई पैतृक सम्पत्ति आफुखुशी प्रयोग गर्न नदिने कुरा अगाडि आए पनि यसलाई गहिरिदिएर हर्ेर्ने हो भने यसमा यौनसम्बन्धी कुरा नै पाइन्छ ।
मूल कुरा के हो भने विधवा महिलालाई यौनस्वतन्त्रता दिइन्न । त्यस्ती महिलाले पतिको सम्झनामा नै बाँकी समय बिताउन चाहन्छिन् भने कुरा अर्कै भयो, तर विधवा भइसकेपछि पनि महिलाले चाहन्छिन् भने अर्को सम्बन्ध स्थापित गर्न नदिइनु न्यायोचित होइन । विदुर पुरुषको तुलनामा हर्ेर्ने हो भने विभेद झनै टड्कारोरुपमा पाउन सकिन्छ । शायद समाजमा विद्यमान विभेद भन्ने सबैभन्दा ठूलो खाडल यसैमा छ ।
नेपालमा अहिले आएको सामाजिक रुपान्तरणसँगसँगै महिलाअधिकार थप स्थापित हुँदै गएको छ । यसको साथै विभिन्न कारणले विधवा बन्न पुगेका महिलालाई पुनर्विवाह गर्ने ढोका खोल्ने आशा गर्न सकिन्छ ।
यौनभावनाको व्यवस्थापन
विधवा महिलालाई यौनभावनाको व्यवस्थापन गर्नु सजिलो विषय होइन । यसका सामाजिक परम्पराका कुरा छन् । विवाह व्यक्तिगत कुरा मात्र नमानिने भएकोले पनि विधवा महिलाको यौनेच्छाको समाधानको कुरा जटिल बन्न पुग्छ । विधवाको यौनजीवनको यस किसिमको नियन्त्रण महिला यौनशोषणकै एउटा रुप हो ।
विधवा भए पनि ऊ अन्य व्यक्तिजस्तै हो । भोक-न्रि्राजस्तै उसलाई यौनको पनि आवश्यकता पर्छ । विधवाको यौनजीवनलाई कडारुपमा नियन्त्रित गर्न खोज्दा यसका नकारात्मक असर पनि पर्छन् । यौनेच्छालाई दमित राख्न खोज्दा विभिन्न मनोवैज्ञानिक असर महिलामा हुन सक्छ । यौनेच्छालाई व्यवस्थापन गर्नु महत्त्वपर्ूण्ा कुरा हो । तर कतिपय व्यक्तिलाई सजिलो नहुन सक्छ । यौनेच्छालाई व्यवस्थापन गर्न नसक्दा सामाजिक मान्यताभन्दा बाहिर पनि यौनसम्बन्ध पुग्न सक्छ र त्यसले पक्कै नै धेरै अनिच्छित कुराहरू निम्त्याउँछ । अनिच्छित गर्भ, त्यसबाट पर्ने जोखिमहरू, यहाँसम्म कि ज्यानै जान सक्ने कुरादेखि समाजमा दर्ुनाम हुनेजस्ता समस्याहरु आउन सक्छन् ।
अर्को गम्भीर पक्ष के छ भने विधवा महिलाको यौनेच्छा हुन्छ र उसले यसलाई दबाएर राखेकी हुन्छे भन्ने कुरा नबुझेजस्तो गरेर बस्ने समाज एकातिर भए पनि यसैलाई आधार बनाएर यौनसर्म्पर्कको लागि मौका खोज्ने व्यक्ति विधवा महिलाले आफ्नोवरिपरि नै भेट्न सक्छे । केही स्थितिमा त बल प्रयोग नै हुन सक्छ । बलात्कृत हुन परे पनि आवाज सशक्त रुपमा उठाउन नसकिने हुन्छ । विधवा महिला आफंैमा कमजोर स्थितिमा रहेको हुनाले पनि बलको प्रयोग गरेर यौनसर्म्पर्क गर्न सजिलो हुने स्थिति बन्छ । पति नभएको स्थितिमा उसैलाई खराब वा चरित्रहीनताको टाँचा लगाइदिएर समाज वा शोषक व्यक्ति उम्कन सक्छन् । त्यसैले विधवा महिला गम्भीर प्रकृतिका यौनहिंसाको सिकार हुन सक्ने स्थितिलाई ध्यानमा राखेर जहिले पनि सजग भएर बस्नर्ुपर्छ ।
विधवाको यौनजीवन निकै नियन्त्रित भएको समाजमा ती महिलाले यौनेच्छा शान्त पार्ने उपाय अवलम्बन गर्न सजिलो नहुन सक्छ । विधवा महिलाको लागि यौनेच्छा शान्त पार्न हस्तमैथुन एक राम्रो उपाय हुन सक्छ । यसको लागि अर्को सम्बन्ध स्थापित गर्ने कुराको साथै आउने असजिलोपनबारे चिन्ता गर्नु पनि परेन । कसै-कसैलाई केही असजिलो लाग्ने भए पनि अभ्यस्त हुँदै गएपछि अनेक तरिकाले स्वःआनन्द लिने गर्न सकिन्छ ।
महिलामा प्रत्यक्षरुपमा योनिलाई नै यौनअंग ठानिन्छ । महिलाहरूमा योनिबाहेक अन्य विभिन्न अंगहरू पनि यौनको दृष्टिकोणले संवेदनशील हुन्छन् र यौनआनन्द प्रदान गर्न सक्छन् । महिलाले विभिन्न यौनअंगहरूलाई प्रयोगमा ल्याई हस्तमैथुन गर्ने गरेको देखिएको छ । हस्तमैथुन गर्दा यौनपरिकल्पना एक महत्त्वपर्ूण्ा पक्ष हो । हस्तमैथुन गर्दा आफूले चाहेअनुरुप्ा यौनक्रियाकलापमा संलग्न व्यक्ति, स्थान अनि आसनको कल्पना गर्न सकिन्छ । यसमा मानसिक पक्ष सबलरुपमा जोडिएर आनन्द झन् थपिन्छ । यहाँ बितेका श्रीमान्सँग नै यौनक्रियाकलापमा संलग्न भएको कल्पना गर्न सकिन्छ । यौनपरिकल्पनाबाट यथार्थमा आउँदा केही असजिलो हुन सक्छ तर यौनपरिकल्पनासहितको हस्तमैथुनको यौनआनन्दको आफ्नै महत्त्व छ ।
अहिले विभिन्न यौनप्रसाधनको प्रयोग धेरैका लागि सहयोगी साबित भएका छन् । कतिपयले पुरुषको लिंग आकारको कृत्रिम वा प्राकृतिक वस्तु पनि प्रयोग गर्ने गर्छन् । विद्युत् वा ब्याट्रीबाट चल्ने भ्राइब्रेटर भनिने यौनप्रसाधन विभिन्न किसिमको आकारप्रकारमा पाइन्छ । तुलनात्मकरुपमा यसको प्रयोगले यौनआनन्द प्राप्त गर्न सजिलो भएको हुनाले पनि यो कयौं महिलाले मन पराएका पनि छन् ।
कतिपयलाई हस्तमैथुन खराब कार्य हो कि जस्तो लाग्न सक्छ तर त्यस्तो सोचमा कुनै वैज्ञानिकता छैन । हस्तमैथुन पनि एउटा स्वाभाविक यौनव्यवहार हो । र्सवप्रथम त हस्तमैथुनले यौनेच्छाको दमनबाट हुने तनावबाट मुक्ति दिलाउँछ । तनावबाट मुक्त मान्छे बढी सकारात्मकरुपमा सिर्जनशील हुन सक्छ र सकारात्मक तथा उत्पादनशील जीवनयापन गर्न सक्छ । यस्तै हस्तमैथुनले अनावश्यक गर्भधारण, अन्य व्यक्तिसँगको यौनसम्बन्ध, यस्ता क्रियाकलापमा खर्च हुने धन तथा समयको दुरुपयोगबाट पनि बचाउँछ । अर्को व्यक्तिसँग यौनसर्म्पर्क नै नहुने भएकाले अहिले चर्चामा रहेका एचआईभीरएड्स वा अन्य यौनरोगहरु लाग्नबाट पनि बचावट हुन्छ ।
विधवा महिलाको पुनर्विवाह एक राम्रो समाधान हुन सक्छ । यसले यौनेच्छाको पर्ूर्तिका साथै सामाजिक-आर्थिक सुरक्षा पनि दिन सक्छ, जसले महिलाको शारीरिक मात्र होइन मानसिक स्वास्थ्यलाई पनि सकारात्मक रुपमा सहयोग गर्दछ ।
राम्रा, नराम्रा अनुभूति हुने पुराना सम्झनाहरूको व्यवस्थापन सजिलो कुरा होइन तर गर्नुपर्छ नै । केही गुमाएको अनि पीडाको अनुभूति हुन्छ अनि असहायपन पनि त्यति नै हुन्छ । यस्तो बेलामा अर्को व्यक्तिको सामीप्यता खोजिन्छ । कतिपय समाजमा मातापिताको घरमा गएर बस्नु सजिलो कुरा नहुन सक्छ । त्यसैले धेरै कुरामा वर्जित भएर बस्नुको सट्टा पुनः सामाजिकीकरण गर्नु आफंैमा महत्त्वपर्ूण्ा कुरा हो । अन्य व्यक्तिले चाहेर मात्रै होइन, विधवा महिलामा यसको लागि आँट र बलियो अठोट चाहिन्छ ।
यौनजीवन कसरी अघि बढाउने अनि पुनर्विवाह गर्नेजस्ता ठूला निर्ण्र्ाागर्न सजिलो छैन । धेरै सोचविचार र सबै दृष्टिकोणबाट ध्यान पुर्‍याउनुपर्ने हुन्छ । त्यसैले राम्रो परामर्शको आवश्यकता पर्छ । सबैको सकारात्मक सहयोग भए कुण्ठित भएर बस्नुको सट्टा एकल महिलाले व्यक्तिगत-सामाजिक अनि यौनआकांक्षा पूरा गर्ने मात्रै होइन, बृहत्तर समाजलाई नै ठूलो सहयोग गर्न सक्छन् । विधवा महिलालाई पनि अन्य व्यक्तिजस्तै आफ्ना नैर्सर्गिक अधिकारहरूको प्रयोग गर्न दिनु विकसित र सभ्य समाजको द्योतक हो ।